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Appreciation for the Male Gender
ndye:
You know what’s wrong with society today? Its that there is very little(if any) incentive to actually be a nice/good guy. Yeah, every girl talks about how they want to find a guy who’s different than the rest, someone who’s not just trying to get into your pants, who’s nice, polite, does cute things for you like buy you flowers on a random day, who calls you just to say I love you, blah blah blah…. Right?
But honestly, despite the fact that most guys know girls want these things, we can’t help but react to what we see on a day to day basis. We are constantly reminded that being a “Good guy” is unattractive. Anytime a guy sees a girl he finds attractive, we often find out what type of guy she goes for and it always seems to be the “bad boy.” The dude with nice car, he’s smooth, he has “swag/game,” he’s been with 100 different women… everybody knows what I’m talking about. So if a guy is tryna get with a girl who finds that that kind of guy attractive, of course he’s going to try to appeal to her interests and try to emulate the “bad boy” image. What’s sad is that most girls admit they fall for the bad boy and to be honest they have no one else to blame but themselves. Girls set the standards of expectation in a guy. But what a lot of girls do is place the blame on men… and not only the men they’ve messed with, but they BLAME ALL MEN. You’ll hear them say “why cant guys be like _____?” “why are all guys jerks?”
You know why women fall for the “bad boys?” Its because it easy. Plan and simple. Its easy for a girl to set her standards low and go for the guy who is experienced and has “swag” instead of taking the time to get to know a guy who is more reserved and not in your face tryna “spit game”
Let me tell you one thing, All “bad boys” have one goal… and it’s to fuck. They’re Players; Trust me I know, I’m friends with most of these guys and I’m around them to know what their ultimate goal is. So before EVER getting involved with someone you need to ask yourself one question. What do you want out of it? If you’re just looking for someone to get butt naked with and do the nasty, then that’s fine, just make sure the goal is mutual. But if you’re looking for a serious relationship with someone then don’t expect that from a “bad boy” or player.
A bad boy’s intentions will always be selfish. The reason he will pursue a relationship with you is always about what he can get out of the relationship and how the relationship benefits him. Nice guy’s intentions always revolve around his lady’s happiness. He will gain all satisfaction for just putting a smile on your face and that alone is enough for him to be in a relationship with you. My advice, if you find a guy like that, hold on to him and appreciate him and remind him how great he is. Inspire him to greatness. The second you take him for granted, he will loose all motivation to make you happy, and the relationship will fail..
Final word is: If you’re unhappy about what you keep finding, then try changing what you’re looking for :)
-ndye
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Ode to the Nice Guys
This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style. This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming. Fu-zu Jen, SEAS/WH, 2003
This chart pretty much describes me in a nutshell, save for the parts about wearing shoes two sizes too big and the fast food physique. Scary accurate!
Yep, Steven’s a real nice guy (geek).
Ode to the Nice Guys
(Source: ingredientsofpeace)
