good man
you know you’ve found a good man when he interrupts a good cuddle sesh while watching a movie to tell you he’s glad you have thighs and strokes them adoringly. just sayin!
Appreciation for the Male Gender
”..thank you for guiding me and showing me love..”
Good Man- RL
The first time I heard this song I immediately fell in love with it, then I saw the video and it became one of my favorites. RL talks about that one special woman that he is willing to give his all to because she brings out the best in him. Everything he says in this song is exactly how I would one day love to make a man feel like a Good Man.
Giants, Rainbows & Daisies!: My Husband...
…is the greatest.
He cracks me up to no end.
Remember when I told you he wanted a boring Christmas present AND he wanted it early? As a person who LOVES giving gifts and LOVES surprising people, I wasn’t on board, but whatever makes him happy, amiright? So I gave him his power tools and he was so giddy he began demanding my wish list.
I told him I really wanted an iPad, but would settle for a Kindle.
This man? Pounced on me when I got home tonight asking me if I wanted to open any presents early like an excited little kid. I said no, of course, but he kept pushing (“oh, but you’ll get soooo much use out of it now, etc. etc.”) so I said fine.
A few minutes later he told me to come into the living room and find my presents. “Don’t worry, Carlyn…I PROMISE you’ll have something to open Christmas morning”, he reassured me.
So under three different throw pillows what do I find?
A Kindle, an iPad, and an iPad case.
WHAT?!??!?!????
“Omygoshareyoufreakingkiddingme, kid?”
“Don’t worry. I’m considering the iPad as more of a ‘family’ gift for both of us.”
Love this man.
Here I am trying to rationalize it all and he says, “Don’t worry about it, babe. There’s nothing wrong with treating ourselves” (and yes, TREAT YO SELF was my immediate response).
Good dude.
I probably shouldn’t tell him about the Cyber Monday shopping I have planned…
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Twiggy's Eyelashes: Why do they go for the bad boys?
Girls go with bad boys for short term fun.
They go with good boys if they want something long term.
The problem with good boys is that they’re so predictable. We go for bad boys because they keep things free. So no, you don’t have to be a bad boy. You need to be creative and spontaneous. Show her you like her. Just saying things only goes so far. Give her flowers for no reason. Buy her chocolate when she’s on her period and laugh when she’s mean to you. Drop a cookie off to her room in the middle of the night just cuz. Make her smile. Give her random hugs and tell her dumb funny things. You don’t have to do drugs or sleep around. You just have to keep things new. Keep her on her toes. Text her that you can’t stop thinking about her. Tell her she’s beautiful. You have to do all this, but don’t overdo it. You have to keep your cool, give her space, make her WANT you. Be desirable. The thing about good guys is that theres no chase, they’re too eager. We all want that boy that makes you feel like a princess, but we also want the boy that will keep you working.
So no, don’t become a bad boy. Stay good, because that has more benefits in the end.
Great post.
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“TRUE MEN” by Brian Shumway
Project Description:
Gender can be a perplexing thing. Despite being flexible and malleable, it defines and confines who we are and how we express ourselves, especially through behavior and dress. Men in particular are bound by the dictates of gender. To be a ‘real man,’ being manly and masculine (or at the very least not outwardly effeminate) are paramount. Expression of one’s manhood, especially in public, must remain within a narrow range of acceptable social norms. Little boys are conditioned as such from birth, almost as a universal absolute. But this ignores the full story of male identity. There is a large spectrum of male experience that is deemed off limits by popular society. The men in this portrait series fall outside traditional notions of manliness and masculinity. They possess an effeminate manner, dress, or look, a ‘girlishness’ that is as much a part of being male as weightlifting and football. They boldly embrace expressions of male identity which flaunt the confines of conventional conceptions of manhood and what it means to be a man.
Beautiful imagery that deserves a reblog here.
You ARE Beautiful :): I am a MAN...
I will:
Be a father to my kids
Still call/text even after you think I got what I wanted
Randomly buy you roses just because I was thinking about you
Be your rock when you need me and never a flake
Remember your Birthday/Anniversary
Notice the small things
Be attracted to your personality over your looks
NOT think with my dick
Take responsibility for my actions
Stand up for you, your feelings, and goals even if it means losing a friend
Always be by your side
Forever be Faithful
Let you drive while I sit back and ride
Put down the video games just so I can pay more attention to you
Always compliment you
Tell you I love you as many times as I possibly can
I will never:
Tell you I love you and not mean it
Be a dick just cause my friends are around
Take from you and not give anything in return
Lie just to get what I want
Take advantage of your love
Cheat
Neglect you
Be insensitive
Break a promise
Hit a woman
STOP LOVING YOU!!
If you are a REAL man and you agree reblog
If you are a women and this is the type of MAN you want like/or reblog
Preach.
I Need A Real Man
I’m reblogging because I like the sentiment behind this, but real men can do the same for other genders, as well.
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My non-fiction life reflected by fictional people.: I've seen some of the worst of what my gender can do....
And I sure as hell am disgusted but I don’t know to what extent. I’m tempted to say that humanity as a whole disgusts me, but it’s more like several clusters of people that just happen to make up a large amount of the world around me.
The reason I say this is because I have some of the unfortunate luck of knowing too many young women who have been sexually assaulted and raped. One is too many and I know about a dozen or so women my age, all smart, intelligent, pretty, and really good people. Yet they had the unfortunate luck of encountering a sick male who wanted to take advantage of someone, often violently.
I went up to Cincinnati on Sunday because a friend of mine was giving a deposition for her rape trial and I wanted to be there to be supportive because I knew all of the details. Boy am I glad I was there because originally it was supposed to just be her, her lawyer, the defendant’s lawyer, and the A/V guy. Well, her attacker showed up with his dad, also a defense attorney, and they sat in the room. Apparently they made faces and snickered at my friend for the whole time, the immature assholes they are.
Meanwhile I waited in the room next door with her worried and agitated mother, but I think I did more good for her by talking with her and distracting her from all of the proceedings next door. Once it was over, my friend seemed ok (all things considered) and her mother was relieved but still agitated. Food really is a great comfort and we got my friend’s comfort food for lunch and just went back to things being somewhat normal.
I get pissed at the males who are completely reckless and take no sort of accountability for their actions. They are the dudes who ruin a perfectly average life and put fear, mistrust (or lack of trust), paranoia, doubt, and self-guilt in young women who really have no idea why it happened to them. And that’s if they’re lucky to still be alive, whether or not their attacker hurt them enough to want them to take their own life. Fuck that noise.
And what’s worse is the system that doesn’t necessarily help out the victims in a timely fashion. Law and Order:SVU romanticizes the legal system and makes it seem like its a better and more efficient system than it really is. It’s a shame that the actual legal system isn’t half as effective as what Stabler and Benson try to portray. I think there are more people who are making a difference in the legal system, but it has to start with us as individuals.
We must demand more from each other with our relationships, interactions, and the company we keep, specifically the males who are scumbags. There’s no problem with having your needs and your negotiables in any type of relationship. If we hold each other to a better standard, we can start to make a change. I’m not saying that’s the quick fix, but dammit it’s a start from a personal level.
I will say that I think any woman who comes forth to file a report is brave and shouldn’t have to relive all of her trauma, but I hope it somehow helps get scumbags off the street and prevent future attacks. Be supportive and open-minded if you know of someone who has suffered an attack, they’ll appreciate it more than you know.
Preach.
themisunderstoodgoodman asked:
Dope Blog Man, We have to keep the movement going!!
Damn right! You just can’t keep a good man down.
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Would you date me? College student, lover of theatre, no tattos yet, but very soon. I like MOST genres of music, but I cannot stand country music (a couple exceptions of course). I’m a good guy, a hopeless romantic and a poet at heart, but I tend to end up in the friend zone… a lot. I’m learning guitar… one day at a time haha. I love to laugh, and I love making people laugh even more.
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(via khimleighanne)
ndye:
You know what’s wrong with society today? Its that there is very little(if any) incentive to actually be a nice/good guy. Yeah, every girl talks about how they want to find a guy who’s different than the rest, someone who’s not just trying to get into your pants, who’s nice, polite, does cute things for you like buy you flowers on a random day, who calls you just to say I love you, blah blah blah…. Right?
But honestly, despite the fact that most guys know girls want these things, we can’t help but react to what we see on a day to day basis. We are constantly reminded that being a “Good guy” is unattractive. Anytime a guy sees a girl he finds attractive, we often find out what type of guy she goes for and it always seems to be the “bad boy.” The dude with nice car, he’s smooth, he has “swag/game,” he’s been with 100 different women… everybody knows what I’m talking about. So if a guy is tryna get with a girl who finds that that kind of guy attractive, of course he’s going to try to appeal to her interests and try to emulate the “bad boy” image. What’s sad is that most girls admit they fall for the bad boy and to be honest they have no one else to blame but themselves. Girls set the standards of expectation in a guy. But what a lot of girls do is place the blame on men… and not only the men they’ve messed with, but they BLAME ALL MEN. You’ll hear them say “why cant guys be like _____?” “why are all guys jerks?”
You know why women fall for the “bad boys?” Its because it easy. Plan and simple. Its easy for a girl to set her standards low and go for the guy who is experienced and has “swag” instead of taking the time to get to know a guy who is more reserved and not in your face tryna “spit game”
Let me tell you one thing, All “bad boys” have one goal… and it’s to fuck. They’re Players; Trust me I know, I’m friends with most of these guys and I’m around them to know what their ultimate goal is. So before EVER getting involved with someone you need to ask yourself one question. What do you want out of it? If you’re just looking for someone to get butt naked with and do the nasty, then that’s fine, just make sure the goal is mutual. But if you’re looking for a serious relationship with someone then don’t expect that from a “bad boy” or player.
A bad boy’s intentions will always be selfish. The reason he will pursue a relationship with you is always about what he can get out of the relationship and how the relationship benefits him. Nice guy’s intentions always revolve around his lady’s happiness. He will gain all satisfaction for just putting a smile on your face and that alone is enough for him to be in a relationship with you. My advice, if you find a guy like that, hold on to him and appreciate him and remind him how great he is. Inspire him to greatness. The second you take him for granted, he will loose all motivation to make you happy, and the relationship will fail..
Final word is: If you’re unhappy about what you keep finding, then try changing what you’re looking for :)
-ndye
Preach.
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the Eponymous Villain: Good Guy's Last Stand
I hear tales upon tales of girls searching for good guys and turning up unlucky in their finds. Well, I’ve been here for a long time now, stewing in my loneliness, with every crack at a relationship falling by the wayside. I don’t want to give up, but I can’t see any reason against it. Especially…
Rest assured. You will find the right one. I’m sure of it.
